Holidays and Kids' Routines? Our Sleep Coach Douina Has the Tips!
Christmas is just around the corner! This naturally brings with it a lot of cheer, including Christmas breakfasts, brunches, dinners, and/or drinks. I'd like to share some helpful tips you can use during this turbulent time.
It's completely understandable that family visits during the holidays can sometimes be stressful, especially if you have a young child.
Here are a few more creative ways to respect your baby's rhythm while remaining flexible:
1. Schedule naps: Try to schedule naps around visits. If you know you'll be with family at a certain time, make sure your baby naps just before leaving. If that's not possible, use the car or baby carrier for a short nap. The movement and the quiet environment can be very helpful.
2. Quiet places: During your visit, find quiet places where you can let your baby sleep or feed them in peace. This can help reduce the stimulation of the festive atmosphere.
3. Flexible bedtime routine: While it's important to maintain rituals, it can be helpful to have a flexible approach. Perhaps you could use a shorter version of the bedtime routine to help your child fall asleep faster.
4. Communicating with family: Explain to your family that your baby has their own rhythm and that it's important for you to respect it. It can be helpful to make this clear beforehand so everyone can adjust and understand.
5. Alternatives to conversations: If you find that conversations about your child's sleep and eating habits are becoming awkward, try changing the topic. Ask questions about other interests, such as vacations, hobbies, or work. This can help divert your child's attention.
6. Avoid comparisons: Remember that every child is unique and there's no "perfect" way to raise a child. When confronted with critical remarks, stay calm and emphasize that you're both happy with how things are going.
7. Expectations of your child: Don't have too high expectations of your child, such as having to remain seated at the table during dinner.
Keep in mind that your child is also trying to adjust to a different situation, and that this can sometimes trigger emotions such as anger, sadness, shyness, hyperactivity, or pushing boundaries. This is all perfectly normal. If you can be understanding, it will be easier for both you and your child. This way, the whole family can enjoy all the festivities more.
Here are some phrases you can use to stop awkward conversations:
- "Everyone has their own way of parenting, and what works for us is fine."
- "We are happy with the progress our baby is making, and that's what matters."
- “Of course there are challenges, but we are learning every day and enjoying the journey.”
Hopefully, these tips and phrases will help you enjoy the holidays with more ease and joy, while also prioritizing your child's well-being.
Good luck and happy holidays!
Love, Douïna
